Please don't make me say "it".

Funny, never thought of SF as the type who couldn't say "No." Had thought I was the one who had a problem with being assertive. So, just how do you reject a guy, and I should add, "gracefully" (the keywords here being the "male ego")? Afterall, the male would not stand to be led on by false hopes while letting slip other opportunities, no thanks to the female's intentionally vague (but hopefully diplomatic) responses; the woman must also have the social graces to turn him down "gently" so that he doesn't have to slinker away with tail between legs, and wouldn't forever remember her as the ungrateful wench. It's a thin rope that we women have to walk, not least in our high heels. Sigh. Men...

Anyway, suggested that she pretend that she never received the email, and pray hard that she doesn't bump into the guy again. Emails do get lost in cyberspace, don't they?

AND, before any hot-blooded male who happens to be reading this blog decides to power up his flame-thrower, I do NOT believe that rejection should be an exercise in humiliation. But trying to reject someone "gently" is akin to breaking up with someone "amicably". Is it actually possible to reject someone without leaving a bitter aftertaste in the mouth?

Now then, complete this sentence "Singaporean men are..."